What if this is a mistake?
Any amount of change brings a little pain.
Good and not-so-good.
Por ejemplo …
You decide to change the colour you wear on your lips.
The pain of this change is more than bearable.
It involves doing a double take whenever you pass a mirror. The surprise is pleasant. It makes you smile.
But it still involves a little change – you’re getting accustomed to this new colour that you so deliciously chose.
[I tried searching for an example that’d apply to both genders but got stuck on lip colours … Email me your ideas !]
And there’s some change comes with pain that isn’t so pleasant.
Like changing your job because the current one resulted in a spiral into depression.
This change brings a lot of uncertainty.
Will I fit in with the new team?
Will my colleagues respect me?
Will I even like them?
Can I really lead my people to where they need to go?
Will I enjoy my time in the office?
What skills do I need here that I don’t have right now?
What if I get to month two and I hate it?
Am I going to make the impact I want to make?
What if this job’s the same as the last one and I’m the problem?
So many questions. So much change to manage.
It takes your subconscious brain into overdrive. You start to feel restless. Your system’s on high-alert, expecting the worst but hoping for the best.
This change is the stress-inducing kind.
Because, unlike the new colour you so skilfully applied to your smackers, this change takes more neurons to fire new pathways for your system to accept it. And deal with it. And make a success of it.
However … the more your neurons fire between each other,creating stronger links, the easier the change becomes to handle.
And before you know it, you’re waltzing into the office, with your team bowing down to your greatness, and you wonder what you were so worried about in the first place.
When you understand how your brain develops through change, it becomes easier to see the long-term view.
- What route do you automatically take? Whether to go to the office, visit a client, see a friend or go to the supermarket?
- Find a different way to arrive at the same destination
- Every time you start the journey to that destination, notice how you act. Do you take the new route, or default to the previous one?
How many times will you need to make the journey before your brain has re-wired itself to take the new route as the default option?
At least three times I’m sure.
If this is how your brain copes with change, it’s how everyone’s brain copes with it.
So when you ask your team to use a new system, accepting this change will take time.
If you’ve delegated a task to a colleague, give them space to work their way through it.
And when you take on something new, see the long term view.
Know that your brain’s equipped to make this change a success. You just have to give it time.
To build new connections between neurons.
To do what its built to do.
To work its way through the pain.
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